written by: cyn knight
thursday tidings blogdom!
so today i posted this picture on my blog facebook page…
in my head i assumed that the peeps who follow my page would *get it* and i think for the most part most did.
but there was one young lady (whom i am honestly not sure if she follows my blog/page or not – i wish i was more on top of that but i am not unless you are one of the few who comments frequently) who was very put out by the photo and basically accused me of *bashing* skinny girls.
pretty major accusations and i admit that at first i was quite shocked by them.
(i am summarizing here as i have since deleted the post)
but she made it very clear that comparing the beauty of a thicker girl in comparison to a thinner one was no better than the reversed. and while we all know that the bigger girls in the world get most of the brunt in that debate – two wrongs do not make a right.
she also said that if i was so comfortable in my *thicker* frame (once again summarizing) that i should do so without *bashing* skinny girls.
but she made a valid point and after i calmed down and swallowed my pride a bit – i knew i had to make amends and delete the photo. the last thing i ever want is to offend someone… even if i don’t think they got where i was coming from.
my intention was to emphasize the beauty in a thicker body and promote health as well as point out the glorification that the media makes on these über thin women that most of us can never emulate without starving ourselves – the photo could easily sway someone into thinking i have a *i hate skinny bitches* mentality.
(come on – everyone knows a girl who has that mentality!)
and i honestly do not.
the women i surround myself with are all of all shapes and sizes and i see the beauty in every single one and it has NOTHING to do with whether they are thin or not.
and even though i battle my own demons with the scale — i am working like hell to get past that and focus on my fitness and health.
our ideal body shape is so personal – some of us are content just to get into our size 10 jeans (hello me!) and others want to strive to be smaller and as long as it is done in a healthy manner – who the fuck am i to judge?
in the future i will be more sensitive to what i post and try to take into consideration the feelings of all the body types in the world.
but i do stand by my belief that the media inundates us with the ridiculous ideal that consists of flat bellies, protruding hip bones and ribs, mile long legs that don’t rub together, long flowing hair and flawless skin. and as the mother of a young daughter who will face gawd knows what ridiculous ideals by the time she is old enough to understand… it pisses me off!
what are your thoughts on this???
should i have stood my ground or do you think i was right to remove the photo?
personally, i stand by my decision to remove it as i truly think it was the right thing to do…
and i am extending my apology to the young lady who pointed out my insensitivity!
peace, love & margaritas kittens!
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